I am disappointed, very disappointed.
I was sent a link to a blog today, with a note to look at the comments. And with some more research, I found more blogs, and more comments.
These comments are from people I know, people I like, people I consider my friends. I am not even just talking about one person.
These comments were attacks, they were attacks on people adopting children.
I do agree that people need to be educated. But there is a large difference between education and attacks.
These people are adopting children, and the fact of the matter is, we don’t know them. We don’t know what their intentions are. We only know what is written.
And as far as I saw, they were just people who wanted the best for their children, don’t we all just want the best for our children? Perhaps they do expect too much from their adopted children, perhaps they do need to be educated.
A lot of perspective adoptive parents do need education, they need to know what its like for us. They need to know some of the things they can do to help their adopted children adjust well. And those who have dealt with adoption are in a good place TO educate.
However, attacks are not education, attacks are attacks. You do not teach a child something they don’t know by telling them they are stupid or wrong.
You teach them by example, you teach them by using words to explain, and explain it to them. There are so many different ways to show people.
Please, we are adults, we ask that people respect us, and we should respect them. We should use our knowledge of these situations to teach others. To educate adoptive parents so that maybe the next generation of adoptee’s and natural families and even adoptive families will have it a little easier than the last.
Some of the comments that were made did absolutly nothing to better the adoption world, they only proved how immature we can be. Immaturity doesn’t accomplish anything, it only makes people angry.
Don’t berate, Educate.